Author: zaviar

Examples of Guilt–Part I

This is the first of a six-part series of articles on guilt, emphasizing specific examples, and how to deal with them. Written by a psychologist. In its most healthy and appropriate sense, guilt is an emotional warning sign that most people learn through their normal childhood social development. Its purpose is to let us know when …

The Literature on Guilt—Part IV

This is the fourth in a four-part series of articles on the literature on guilt. Please read the first three before reading this one. To continue… Clinical Aspects On a more clinical level, guilt has many correlates with mental illnesses. Anxiety is associated with major depression in about seventy-five percent of cases, and guilt, being a …

The Literature on Guilt—Part III

This is the third in a four-part series of articles on the literature on guilt. Please read the first two articles before reading this one. To continue… In this case Shame is to Guilt what Sociology is to Psychology; that is, the bigger, more social version of the smaller individual experience. Shame also suggests moral decrepitude …

The Literature on Guilt—Part I

The following is the first in a four-part series of articles on the literature on guilt. It is written as an introduction to the topic and should be read in order. In the literature, we find guilt to be the main theme in John Steinbeck’s East of Eden, Fyodor Dostoevsky’s Crime and Punishment, Tennessee Williams’ A …

What Terms We Need To Understand When Changing Teen’s Behaviors_Part II

To Review, there are three contingencies of reinforcers; immediacy, consistency and constancy. These are the aspects of reinforcers that create change. I’ve related all of them to increasing positive behaviors by applying the contingencies to each behavior you want to increase. The same arrangement works to decrease negative behaviors, if the contingencies are applied using punishments. …

What Terms We Need To Understand When Changing Teen’s Behaviors–Part I

This is the first of a three-part series of articles introducing an approach to changing teenager’s behavior. I’ve been a child psychologist for twenty-seven years. During that time, I’ve evolved a system for dealing with children. It involves some basic reinforcement strategies, but it also has some new ideas. People tell me they want the nuts …

The Psychology of Guilt—Part III

This is the third in a three-part series of articles on the psychology of guilt. Please read the previous two articles first. In guilt dynamics, there are only two patterns of thinking or behaving—rectifying something you did not do or rectifying something you erroneously did do. Either way you are stuck. In general, this is a …

The Psychology of Guilt—Part II

This is the second of a three part series of articles on the psychology of guilt. Please read the first article before reading this one… Here’s another perspective, from psychology: “In this definition, guilt is a negative, paralyzing emotion, based on non-acceptance of oneself or the situation, and it leads to depression and frustration rather than …

The Psychology of Guilt–Part I

This is the first in a three-part series on the psychology of guilt. It is written by a clinical psychologist who has been in private practice 27 years. The Psychology of GUILT(Ambivalence Turned Inwards) From etymology (the study of historical linguistic change, especially as manifested in individual words)… “Guilt stems from gylt ‘crime, sin, fault, fine,’ …

Teens, Moods and Psychiatric Conditions

I’m a child psychologist and have been in private practice over twenty-seven years. This latest brief article outlines some things to watch for in teens when their behavior becomes a problem. This is one of a series of many articles recently published online about teenagers and their behaviors… To continue… Another cause of erratic moods is …

Teens, Driving and Dating

Teens, Driving and Dating I’ve been an outpatient child psychologist for over twenty-seven years, and have recently completed a ebook, How To Change Teenager’s Behavior. Below is an excerpt, summarizing some thoughts on teen driving, followed by dating (next article). To continue… Your task as the parent is to shape your teenager; training them, little by …

Procrastination and Assertiveness

What is assertiveness? Simply defined, according to Wikipedia, which is actually pretty good at defining this term, assertiveness is: “…a form of behavior characterized by a confident declaration or affirmation of a statement without need of proof; this affirms the person’s rights or point of view without either aggressively threatening the rights of another (assuming a …

Other Causes of Procrastination-Like Behaviors-Part II

Other Causes of Procrastination-Like Behaviors-Part IIThis is a continuation of the previous article, which was Part I. Please read that article first. To continue… Mental health is often an underlying factor. Think depression or bi-polar illness. Think anxiety disorders. These are serious conditions that clearly compromise an individual’s ability to negotiate even simple, daily tasks, much …