Author: zaviar

Curing Procrastination

Curing Procrastination While it is not a clinical syndrome; that is, a diagnosis found in a mental health manual, procrastination is still pernicious, psychologically. It can create mild symptoms or some that are chronic, even paralyzing. Regardless, procrastination is something that can be cured. Procrastination is really a form of ambivalence. This is not widely recognized. …

How To Think About Teenagers

I’m a child psychologist. This includes training about teenagers. Teens, by definition, are still children from the ages of thirteen to the day before they turn eighteen. Nineteen year olds, though technically adults, are still teenagers. On the low end of the teen spectrum, very mature twelve year olds will act like immature thirteen or even …

Guilt is a Four Letter Word

OK, I know I can’t count, but this title gets people’s attention about this very debilitating feeling and the underlying dynamics that set it up. In my capacity as an outpatient psychologist, I run into lots of conditions, many of which rest upon the deeper dynamic of anxiety.Relationships usually bring this experience up, as it is …

Ambivalence and Guilt–Part II

This is the second in a two-part series of articles on ambivalence and guilt. Please read the first article before reading this one. Written by a psychologist. The Dictionary of Psychology defines an “Approach-Avoidance” situation, as … “A conflict resulting from being both drawn and repelled by the same goal. This type of conflict is particularly …

Ambivalence and Guilt–Part I

This is the first of a two-part series on ambivalence and guilt. Written by a psychologist. We all suffer from internal conflicts every day; some big, some little. Some conflicts are between ideas, concepts and values, while others are only between feelings. Some are conscious, some unconscious. In all cases, the irresolution of the conflict sponsors …

Example 1-Dealing With Procrastination

This comes from an ebook on procrastination that is available on the author’s website. Many people want real life examples of this very difficult psychological state. Here’s one. But first, you might read the other articlesin this directory on this subject by this author. Thiswill give you, the reader, a better understanding of what’sbelow.Frank D. is …

Curing Procrastination

Curing Procrastination While it is not a clinical syndrome; that is, a diagnosis found in a mental health manual, procrastination is still pernicious, psychologically. It can create mild symptoms or some that are chronic, even paralyzing. Regardless, procrastination is something that can be cured. Procrastination is really a form of ambivalence. This is not widely recognized. …

Teenagers and Grades

Teenagers and GradesI’ve been a child psychologist for 27 years. I’ve written hundreds of articles on changing children’s behavior and this one focuses on the role of school grades, which in turn reflect parental expectations, usually in the guise of household rules. The “Parent Rules” are the basic conditions that “need” to be met for something …

Changing Teenager’s Behavior-A Word About Curfews–Part I

Changing Teenager’s Behavior-A Word About CurfewsWhat happens when your teenager is defiant, not remorseful, not conciliatory and/or not cooperative? Remember the previous examples from previous articles, when your teen came home a half-hour late on Friday night, but the next day was somewhat better behaved? What if your teen came home two hours late, slept most …

Changing Teenager’s Behavior–The Cell Phone

Changing Teenager’s Behavior–The Cell PhoneWe parents know that most teenagers are wired to their electronic devices–computers, Play Stations, X Boxes, or cell phones. Talking on cell phones is ubiquitous. Texting each other during school hours is endemic and has replaced passing notes between classes. It used to be that only doctors had pagers and cell phones. …

Diagnosing Anxiety

Diagnosing Anxiety Hello,My name is Dr. Griggs. I am a clinical psychologist and have worked in private practice over twenty years. I’ve written a single subject ebook about how to diagnose and treat your own anxiety. I presume you want straight answers. My goal is to help you understand/learn about anxiety and to teach skills to …

Top Seven Reasons People Resist Anger–Part II

Top Seven Reasons People Resist Anger–Part II In my capacity as an outpatient psychologist for twenty-five years, I run into eight major conditions every day. These are all touched by the experience of anger, which ifnot dealt with effectively, will exacerbate the eight contions(relationships, anxiety, self-esteem, mood, assertiveness, etc.)Here’s the top seven reasons I have encountered …