Examples of Guilt–Part I

Examples of Guilt–Part I This is the first of a six-part series of articles on guilt, emphasizing specific examples, and how to deal with them. Written by a psychologist. In its most healthy and appropriate sense, guilt is an emotional warning sign that most people learn through their normal childhood social development. Its purpose is to …

Ambivalence and Guilt–Part I

Ambivalence and Guilt–Part I This is the first of a two-part series on ambivalence and guilt. Written by a psychologist. We all suffer from internal conflicts every day; some big, some little. Some conflicts are between ideas, concepts and values, while others are only between feelings. Some are conscious, some unconscious. In all cases, the irresolution …

Ambivalence and Guilt–Part II

This is the second in a two-part series of articles on ambivalence and guilt. Please read the first article before reading this one. Written by a psychologist. The Dictionary of Psychology defines an “Approach-Avoidance” situation, as … “A conflict resulting from being both drawn and repelled by the same goal. This type of conflict is particularly …

Examples of Guilt–Part III

This is the third of a six-part series of articles on guilt, emphasizing specific examples, and how to deal with them. Written by a psychologist. To continue… The trick was to “unbundle” one or more different dimensions that were embedded in one guilt-inducing level of communication. The principle is to deal with the different dimensions separately. …

Examples of Guilt–Part II

This is the second of a six-part series of articles on guilt, emphasizing specific examples, and how to deal with them. Written by a psychologist. To continue… In most cases of guilt, the antidote is to create another (meaning, your) standard, other than that implied by committing or omitting something, or by conforming to the speaker’s …